“Things don’t happen for a reason, things give you reasons to make things happen.”
Ever read those famous quotes and one liners and wish you thought of it? Ever try to come up with one yourself? Sometimes they are so obvious and simple you wonder why its not more common for other people to think of and why so many people fail to follow these obvious truths? This quote is my contribution. It’s something I always believed in but never had the words to describe it until it came to me one day. It wasn’t until my irkness over the subject hit it’s limit that I was finally able to comprehend and express it simply.
So what does it mean? It means I don’t believe everything happens for a reason in the sense that everyone’s lives are predetermined and that their destiny’s are set like an instruction manual. To me, the phrase “everything happens for a reason” is untrue as it implies no action is ever needed and that things are always out of your control. When bad things happen many will find peace by believing it only happened because a plan is put in place that is better off for you. When something better does come along, credit is given to whatever spiritual guidance they think was responsible. However, in terms of this quotes meaning, it’s that positive outlook that allowed that better thing to happen. By changing your state of mind you subconsciously set events in motion that reflect that mood whether it be decisions, socializing or physical changes. In other words, the credit belongs to that person alone. Whatever bad happened was the reason that gave you the power to make something better happen. Too often a person dislodges their own credibility and gives it to some other entity. This quote is about retaining the notion and acknowledging the power of human nature and the complex workings of our brain. It’s about the power of positive thinking.
One thing that irks me in this world is when people sit back and wait/hope/pray/expect things to happen by doing absolutely nothing except thinking about it really hard like they are making a wish to a magical genie. Sure most of the time the matter I speak of is religious, but it doesn’t have to be. It can also be spiritual beliefs, so directed only at religion this is not. On the religious side, sitting back and praying for something isn’t going to make things happen alone. Sure, pray as well as physically do everything in your power to solve whatever problem or to get something to whatever point you are praying for but don’t only pray and expect results. To make it worse, 99 times out of 100 this method can fail yet when that one time something does happen that fulfills their wishes the person acts like it worked flawlessly ignoring the other 99 times, thus feeling enough reinforcement to continue to follow the habit. That one time is what some may call a miracle and some may call coincidence but I say it happens because of probability. It was successful because things happened to make it possible, not because you prayed for it. Cause and effect.
“If you prove the cause, you at once prove the effect; and conversely nothing can exist without its cause.”
– Aristotle, Rhetoric
There are only a certain amount of solutions that can happen when it comes to a problem that one may be “hoping” to change, whether it be a 50/50 chance, 5 or 100, it doesn’t matter. Things went into motion that made it happen. When something is successful, while one may think destiny took hold it was most likely because the probability was high. This only refers to things within our power though, and not things involved with luck which is a completely different matter. For things completely out of your power you may pray or hope for help because that’s all you can do, of course. But to be clear, what I speak of in this post excludes that.
When speaking spiritually, one could bring up the idea of karma. While I myself sometimes believe in it because it follows the cause and effect rule, you also can’t rely on this as if whatever it is will get what is deserved anytime soon without effort. It could take a lifetime or never happen at all if you simply wait which is why physical action must be taken if possible. When I think of the part of karma I resonate with the saying “what goes around comes around” comes to mind as in if you look for trouble or make it, in the end it WILL find you just as if you do good deeds, due to networking and interaction of people it WILL come full circle eventually. These are the results of taking action, where as doing nothing while assuming things will happen because of some kind of metaphysical fairness system decided by unknown entities will get you nowhere.
So don’t just sit back and do absolutely nothing and expect results. Remember you have the power to make big things happen. Create a positive attitude, change your habits or even your outlook on things. Actions and words will subconsciously follow because of how we’re made, not because of chance. By reacting to things in a helpful and positive way, things will then happen. When things go bad, because of this, we learn from them and become stronger. Don’t settle with a defeat thinking something will come of it by itself simply because of the belief it happened for a reason. Where there is a will there is a way. That’s the power of positive thinking. Who we are and what we are capable of is fact, so put your faith in that.
I apologize if this sounds confusing. I did my best to explain it! Has anyone else created a quote they are proud of?